Such a fairly graphic title. Isn't it? Imagine yourself- a bright and shiny, round ball of fire, being surrounded by things that remain in awe of you, always...(wow, what a beautiful thought:)).
Being bright and shiny is ok, but the part about being a round ball, nope...I don't think any of you aspire to be that :P
Jokes apart, we live among some really nice people, some who genuinely care for us, love us and want all good things for us; and then comes the other lot- who seem to be so into you, but are secretly dynamites waiting to explode. You don't relate to it? Well let me give you a day to day visual.
Sunday morning(because sunday is a working day in the UAE), you get up lazily not wanting to go to work at all, but you have to anyway. Dressed up, looking all, "table full of work- HERE I COME", you reach your office in a good mood, finish off almost half your work, then comes along Mr./Ms. 'ME'. To give you a little insight: suppose, you had a small riff with this person, and it wasn't your fault at all. Apologizing didn't make any sense and being courteous came naturally to you, so, you go ahead and say, "hi". What do you get in return- an ice cold stare followed by a dead "hi".
I could bet this sooo happens in the girl world. If you guys experience this too, well, this probably might be a global phenomena.
Let me tell you one thing, people are only as important as you want them to be. Things happen in life, people make mistakes. After all, we are all humans. We only learn via trial and error. Its always best to forgive and forget... We really don't have to be such an ego-eater. Personally, I like to think that I don't know how to give the cold shoulder to someone, and I feel lucky that I have never got a chance to learn that.
Do you really want to be liked by others? then do this:
* Give them the same chances you would give yourself.
* Its stupid of us to expect that we would all react the same way. If you do know their soft spots, just don't hit it, however upset you may be.
* Have a problem? Just clear your brain, heart, emotions and ego for a minimum of 30 secs. Think straight, don't just start with your tongue-lash.
* If you've been trying to resolve things and nothing has been working, well, give it a rest, move on with your life, and be your courteous self to that one person:)
Who doesn't hope for a perfect life, eh? Well, when everything goes all sweet and smiley, where's the fun, right?
Some people are more important to you than others, say, friends and family more than colleagues. Naturally people close to you tend to hurt you more, when it actually should be otherwise.
Alhamdulillah, I'm blessed with family and friends who understand my reactions and who knows that my jokes are just 'jokes' and not arrowheads meant to pierce someone's feelings.
There are some stuff we should all be very clear about when it comes to handling sensitive family or friend related issues.
* Don't forget these are people you love, and people who will always love you.
* Your small problems are not part of world war III, you don't need an army to defend you.
* Have a clear conscience. Don't always believe you are right. Maybe, you are wrong.
* Be careful about what you say and all the more, how you say it.
* Relationships are a bucketful of emotions, understand the spur might have been, only because of some emotional needs not being met (this especially happens with parents :) )
* You are not the boss, so, just cool off and try to see the other person's perspective.
* You can always explain things in a nice way.
* Limit your discussions to the people involved, do not broadcast it.
* Please stop feeling so important :D, not that you are not important, you will always be, to those who care for you, if you go about asking for it- you probably have lost your vision of memories.
* Oh! and finally, stop watching sick crappy Indian soaps that exaggerate everything.
All people have problems, my dear friend:) Most of it is because of various other situations. Shouldn't we try to understand that and make amends?
Don't you want to be happy?? Not the ' showing off- I have the best life' happy, but the 'Thank God! there's lot of love and care surrounding me, what more can I ask for?' happy.
Start remembering your gut feeling-Someone with a not so tainted conscience will instantly get a neuron reaction to differentiate between right and wrong- the only problem being, the way they acknowledge it.
Want a quick solution to a smile:
- Realize that you might not always be right.
- Sometimes silence is better than any argument.
- Take a step forward and resolve issues.
- Recognize the third parties who will almost always be jealous of your happiness, and steer clear of them.
Pointless arguments never made anyone happy. C'mon people, life is too short to ruin it.
Love as much as you can, bring a smile on everyone's face, strive towards an exemplary behavior.
You disagree with something, let it be, it's not worth arguing with those who'll never understand.
And, if you're the one being Stuck uP:
"HEY, you are NOT the centre of the UNIVERSE:)"
Destress and live happily:)
